Math is the universal language.
You and I are inhabitants of the universe.
Language is ever-evolving and increasing to correlate with humanity.
Which is why how you live your life - you as an equation, you as a word - can not be the same as everyone else.
To do so would limit our vocabulary as a species, hinder us as humans and stop our progress.
Your equation may take your whole life to decipher, your purpose may not be apparent, but you need to live by your own equation no one else's.
Which is why when you're feeling adrift, alone and unsure what to do next and you look to someone else's equation for peace, realize that theirs doesn't hold the answer for you.
Be the Einstein of your life's equation. *
What is your life's equation so far?
* chalkboard + gravity defying hair not included.
Facebook makes me feel like an awesome friend I 'like' like a smothering mother, 'share' like a proud father and giggle at their jokes. In real-life tho, I have trouble remembering important dates, don't call/text them often (I hate phones) and definitely don't write (altho I do have one unsent written card on my table that quietly begs to differ but doesn't count). Which is why in my custom-made life I'm taking action and making sure my BFF's don't wither away with neglect OR just find a new friend.
The beauty of this is that by reaching out you're showing that you care and that's half the love-fest done.
- Scribbling on Facebook walls 'You + Me + Skype = Your Friday at 3pm' (deal = sealed)
- Composing a poem about their strengths and love-abilties (the cornier the better)
- Making note of inside jokes (I forget them = friendship boner kill) for future reference
- Random texts of joy - 'Your way with words makes me giddy', 'I admire your ability to remember EVERY. SINGLE. LYRIC. of Genesis', and 'Your cooking slays me with olfactory euphoria'
- Tiny presents (harder to do on a wealth fest but get creative). Pick flowers, bake them a coffee cake, write a card, make them a smoothie, proffer them a bowl full of luscious cherries
- Send them a cartoon that is relevant - Dilbert being one of my faves for seeing the brutal humor in life
- Actually letting them talk for 10 minutes with full, undivided (no thinking about dinner or blog posts) attention
- Giving them verbal credit for their awesome life accomplishments
What ways do you foster your friendships? Comment below!
Mr. C lit the car on fire. The back seat crackled with flames. After frantically dousing it with water, the smoke hung out in the car waiting for some potheads to show up and contribute. The dude is bummed. This is where I would usually suggest going out to a nice dinner to compensate for the drowned spirits but no can do, kid. No can do. Two words have changed the rhythm of our daily lives.
Dun dun DUUUH. No spending money = no fun, you say? I cry SHENANIGANS! So far we've gone swimming (come on Northern Hemispherians! Be polar bears!), read books, gone rock climbing, started drawing & writing again, completed satisfying house projects and came up with a bajillion business ideas/suppliment income ideas.
Plus to my utter surprise ... there is less stress in my life. Not just because I know I have savings now (haha BOO YAH!) but also because not spending money is relaxing. Really relaxing.
There was the obligatory 'spend money to save money' period where I bought things that wouldn't qualify as 'spend-worthy' when the fest started (a book I promised my friend, some supplies for projects, printer cartridges, one pot of $20 eyeliner, flowers for a relative and tupperware for lunches) but that time has expired.
The key to success with a wealth fest - give it meaning. After 6 months of doing this wealth fest I will have a totally new lifestyle as a locationally independent business owner. Me and Evolve are getting serious and in 6 months time we're making it official. The backup money is so I don't freak out about the cost of rice ($2.99 a bag! A BAG! I could make this cheaper myself! ... no, no you can't) I'm creating a savings account to cushion the hop of faith.
Life is going to be better for this. Maybe it'll leave a pond grit taste in my mouth for 6 months but it'll be worth it. Better to do it than talk about it my whole life.
I made a few printables for saving success. Click (here for Pages version), (here for PDF's), (here for Word docs) print them out if they catch your fancy. There's a 'Spend Vs Save' list, 'Weekly Dinners' list, 'Fun + Free things to do' ideas.
Anna over at Then We Saved saved 24k in 15 months with a smile on her dial even. She's the mastermind behind the Spending Fast concept that inspired this post. She has a ton of nifty thrifty ideas that would make your life richer.
What's your relationship with money like? Would you do a wealth fest?
Currently at a crossroads I am overflowing with impetus to change my life so all aspects are in alignment with what I want and not what I've been told to do. Suck my lady balls, Society!
Which is why the S.S. Custom-made Life is setting sail for Freedom at latitude 180 degrees of Happiness.
Do you find yourself doing a day job that fills you with sour mouthed dread in the morning?
Do you hang out with people that bring people down including yourself?
Do you wake up in the morning and wish you could spend it reading or running?
Then join me in creating a life that you've custom-made for yourself.
How do you want to tailor your life?
- Getting a career coach to get you that dream job that fills you with meaning and passion?
- Turning your part-time side job into a full-time bountiful business?
- Figuring out what makes you unicorn-unique and holding fast to that?
- Falling in love with food and movement?
- Sitting down with money and telling it that it won't be bossing you around anymore?
- Cultivating a simple & meaningful life?
- Bringing beauty into the every day?
- Doing what you want to be doing?
- Bust out of university and move overseas already?
- Quit the boring day job and go around the world?
It's never too late to grab life by the balls and make it your minion! Be the kid who colors outside the lines!
What do you want to change about your life? Write it out below!
What do you do if you're not hanging out with the risk-taking, adventure-loving and damn-fine people of the Life of Something New blog?
Why you're starting your new biz and talk about Darwinism, Dr. Who and marketing - your three favorite things and you call it 'Evolve'! Yeah! That's what I've been up to. For the past few months I've been preparing - designing, cursing, collaborating, coachee-ing and finally launching!
Three weeks in and I'm already booked out for the next two months. Victory. Fist. Pump.
This wasn't magic.
When you want to be a solo-prenuer, small biz owner or freelancer it seems impassible to get thru the amount of work, time and effort to arrive at the other side - having a successful business. You try different things, experiment, research and learn lighting-sharp from your mistakes.
It's the mistakes that make us stronger, smarter and faster but they're also the things we want to talk about the least.
Because it's an icky feeling when you're starting something new... again and you realize your other attempts haven't succeeded.
Vulnerable. Exposed. Fresh. Raw.
Aloftt - artisan, vintage kimono handbags.
Alacrity Admiral - branding and copywriting services that will put you ahead of the fleet.
Risk Guide - victory fist pump as a lifestyle.
Didn't work. No clients, no profit, no fun (in the long run). What I did learn? That marketing is the pivotal point in any business. That connecting is the most important part and that I am damn good at it. I have been studying and experimenting every since Aloftt to figure out what makes a successful business and what doesn't.
Trial and error. Experimentation. Survival of the fittest. Evolution!
BAM. Everything lovable. Plus I can call my packs cool names:
What adventures are you working on/have you had?
Conquer Your World series is now an ebook after being a rewarding inter-blog series.
If you're looking to solidify blogging friendships, grow your traffic and increase your mailing list then it is SPOT ON. Note: if you have a fetish for detail, organizing and lists this is where you get your rocks off, buddy. It turns you into a better blogger and pushes you to reach out to meet new peers in your sphere. Pairing up with someone who compliments your strengths would mean you'd dominate the world and stress less!
Reach out and make legends happen.
Step 1: Tease out your key theme: travel? relationships? money?
Step 2: Mindmap the different problems your theme has (or your fans have with it) - are they worried it isn't safe? do they think they need specific skills? is there a step most people overlook? are they allergic to zombies?
Step 3: GOOGLE your brains out to find blogs that match the theme/provide solutions to problems in step 2.
Step 4: Read lots of blogs till your eyes shrivel and your friends have forgotten you exist.
Step 5: Search desperately for the PERFECT-FIT blogger's email.
Step 6: Weep when you can't find it.
Step 7: Craft flawless personalized email for getting specific blogger on board.
Step 8: Have cat mash keyboard with teeny paws of doom and delete the masterpiece.
Step 9: Flick second-best email into the ether.
Step 10: Repeat steps 7 - 9 twice as many times as you think you need.
Step 11: Wait while experiencing the same agony as sending a 'friend request' on Facebook while watching them update hourly on the minutiae of their life.
Step 12: Receive 90% positive responses from quintessential + awe-inspiring bloggers.
Step 13: VICTORY FIST PUMP.
Step 14: Realize you doubled your work load.
Step 15: Victory fist pump again anyway.
Step 16: Write multiple emails to send out instructions & schedule.
Step 17: LAUNCH FIRST POST!
Step 18: Spend all day clicking to see how much traffic you get.
Step 19: Proceed to send out two times a week pre-post email which includes tweets, links and schedules.
Step 20: Schedule tweets using Bufferapp.
Step 21: REFRESH STATS EVERY MINUTE LIKE A MUTHAF*UCKA.
Step 22: Nod head respectfully when reading innovative content from peers.
Step 23: Get tired of being so freakishly on top of your sh*t.
Step 24: Transform series into gorgeous ebook that doubles newsletter subscription numbers.
Would you/ have you done a collaborative blog series?
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Davinia Hamilton left Malta a sunny Mediterranean paradise for the overcast gray skies of Dublin. She explains why...
A couple of nights ago, I was sitting outside at a bar in Valletta, listening to live jazz and having a great conversation with two Brits who had recently relocated to Malta. I told them how I would be moving to London next week, and how it's something I've always wanted to do. They looked at me like I had absolutely lost my marbles.
I frowned and asked what was wrong.
“Are you mad?” one of them said; “Why in the world would you ever want to leave this island? It's basically paradise.”
I get that a lot. You see, I was born in Malta, a tiny island right in the middle of the Mediterranean, where the sun shines almost all year round, the sea is the bluest blue, and life revolves around our dining tables, which are usually filled with fresh bread, olive oil, fruit and wine.
And so when I tell foreigners that I left Malta last year for Dublin, they usually respond by implying that I have lost my marbles.
Except that I haven't. Not at all. The grass is always greener on the other side. Except it really is greener in Dublin because it rains quite a bit there.
I've always wanted to leave Malta. As beautiful as it is, it is just not for me. The summer heat makes me feel frustrated and angry; the fact that Malta is so small does exactly the same thing. And although I have very good friends here, and although my family is here, I've always known I would leave the country eventually.
Different places are right for different people. While some people's idea of heaven is basking in the sun with a cold mojito, my own heaven consists of plenty of buildings, plenty of people and places where there is always something going on.
I am a city girl through and through. More than three days in the countryside and I start to get twitchy and agoraphobic. And so, last year, when the opportunity arose for me to move to Dublin to do my Masters degree, I knew I had to take it.
As melodramatic as this sounds, as soon as I had settled in Dublin, it felt like my life had finally begun – possibly because I had been so convinced I would leave Malta, that staying there only felt like I was procrastinating.
And I am not saying that it is easy to move to a different country – not by any means. Besides the torture of packing your entire life into a few boxes, the worst part about leaving is leaving people behind. I wish I could've scooped my family and friends up in my arms and taken them with me. And even though I am used to living away from my family now, saying goodbye to them at the airport only gets harder and harder. True, phones and Skype and Facetime all make it a lot easier to keep in touch with the people you care about, but it is still not easy.
Nonetheless, the year I spent in Dublin was the best year of my life so far. They say travel is the best education, and I can't deny there is a lot of truth to that statement. Being so far away from home teaches you a lot about yourself, good and bad. And there is something inherently exciting in getting to know a new place, in observing how it progresses from 'surrogate country' to 'home' as you forge new friendships, find your away around, and learn more and more about the history of the place, the locals and the traditions.
It has been nice to come back to Malta for a couple of weeks. It is interesting to be back here now, because Malta is no longer 'home'. I am no longer up to date with all the news and inside jokes and it feels like I am a foreigner here, which also means I get to treat this like a holiday. Also great is all the attention I've been getting from my friends, who want to meet me for drinks and a catch-up session before I leave the island again.
But here I am, leaving paradise again; this time for London, the city-est city in the world (with, perhaps, the exception of New York). Sometimes I think being the new girl in a new place again is going to be daunting, but that is the downside to having a bad case of the travel bug. Because, yes, being settled down in one country, whether it is your version of paradise or not, is comfortable and offers a sense of security.
We travellers, however, crave the novelty of a new place, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. We don't only want to be citizens of one city; we want to be citizens of the world, and that is why I am leaving paradise. Again.
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