Hello New Friends! My name is Sabrina and I have been following Halley’s little corner of the internet for quite some time now! I love the adventures and the inspiration, and the shared comradery of being two New England girls doing big, scary things. I have recently taken off across the world to live and study in Edinburgh, Scotland. This move was my completely impossible, utterly irrational, thoroughly irresponsible pipe-dream. But I did it. And here is why I think you should too:
1. Because we get ONE shot at this. Just one. And when you’re a weathered 70 year old lady you can peruse the pictures on your wall, and read through your life resume and have something to be proud of. You can say that you slid into home base worn out, scuffed up, and with a killer wrap sheet. All the people I’ve known who have passed away never wished that they worked harder at their jobs. They wished that they had made their passions and the people they love more of a priority.
2. Because you are always going to have an excuse not to. Those things never go away. Sell everything I own and move to Scotland? No way, man, I have student loan bills to pay, and a floor to sweep, and a cousin who needs my companionship. Eventually you have to decide if those ‘things‘ are worth your procrastination. Are they worth not becoming the woman you hoped you would be someday? I hope the answer is no.
3. Because it will make you realize what your made of. And when it turns out that you’re a strong, intelligent, capable woman who can backpack across India and then volunteer at the Mother Theresa orphanages you’ll also start to realize that you have the lady-testicles to get all sorts of other things done too. Then nothing can stop you.
4. Because investing in yourself is never a waste of time or money. Although I am huge Suze Orman fan, I’m not talking about building up your IRA. Invest in your passions, and work towards becoming that idealized version of yourself. Think about the woman you’ll be when you finally get your pilot’s license, or start jumping 4’ fences on your new Dutch-Warmblood Gelding. Or how fantastic it will feel to throw your first pot, or play your first chord.
5. Because you have all the time in the world to be a responsible adult. Can I tell you a secret about the housing market? It will still be there when you’re done chasing your dreams. It will still have ups and downs, and there will always be a cute fixer-upper that could use a fresh coat of cornflower blue paint in the living room. If you’re stressed about following your dreams because you’re feeling the pressure to buy a house or settle down with a mate or have a baby then I can relate. But I think that it helps to take a step back (way back) and ask yourself if those are things that YOU really want and value right now, or if those are things that other people think you should value. I have to tell you that I am relatively certain that my ovaries will still be useful when I hit 30 and graduate as a doctor. For me the delay in the ‘traditional adult life’ will be totally worth it.
6. Because you’re braver than you think. And if you are brave with your life it could inspire other people to be brave with theirs. Maybe the little girls I know back home in Vermont will start to think that living internationally is a killer experience to have. Maybe they will also think that it’s a feasible task to undertake, given that someone else has already done it.
So what are you girls working on? Are you chasing big dreams? Trying new things?
Get going! Right now! It’s later than you think.